6 Life-Lessons My Mom Taught Me the Hard Way

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I received compensation from Hefty® to create this post written by Julie Bigboy at Mom Rewritten. All experiences and opinions expressed in this post are my own and not those of Hefty®.

This Mother’s Day I’m reflecting on my mom and the life lessons she taught me that challenged me to stay strong. Whether it is creative ventures, trying something new or even doing housework together, moms everywhere are supporting their kids in whatever they do! Keep reading for the hard life-lessons my mom gave me that have shaped me into the strong mom I am for my kids.

1. Be Yourself

I was a creative child, constantly drawing, singing, and daydreaming. And the creativity simply oozed out into how I dressed and presented myself to the world. Even if that meant paisley pants and a plaid shirt (hey, it was the 70s!) Moms only rule? No mixing and matching of plaids, even if the colors were the same. Other than that, if it fit, it was fair game!

I can remember layering two skirts on top of each other, rocking three ponytails on my head and wearing a floor-grazing skirt that was made from an old quilt. I was sooo confident in my young self and I have Mom to thank for that!

It never crossed my mind that anyone would think I was strange or weird for dressing so interesting – Mom felt that it was important for me to have a strong self-esteem. She also knew I’d eventually figure it out myself that maybe I’d look better without peacock blue eye shadow from lid to eyebrow!

2. It’s an Adventure

I was just barely 14 and my brother only 12 when my mom allowed us to take the bus to the mall. It was our first time navigating public transportation and apparently we did a lousy job of it, because we didn’t get to the mall! As soon as we realized we were miles in the opposite direction, we hopped off and found a pay phone. We were in tears, scared and worried about being in the completely wrong place. My mom laughed and reassured us we’d be fine. She told us to get on the next bus back and said something I’d never forget, “As long as nobody gets hurt, it’s an adventure!”

Going on adventures to places I’ve never been is one of my favorite things as an adult and I’m so grateful Mom taught me that getting lost was part of the fun.

3. Try New Things (And Don’t Whine About It)

I was the worst picky eater as a kid. I would refuse foods and to make it worse, I’d whine about it when my mom would ask me to just TRY it. I actually told my kids this story the other day at the dinner table (pointedly towards my own picky eater!) and they thought it was hilarious. One morning when I was about 12 my mom had made me a protein breakfast shake with malted milk. Malted milk has never been palatable to me (even now) and I refused to even take a sip. Looking back, I know I was a complete brat and deserved what was coming to me, but wow was I mad. My mom, in a fit of frustration, told me, “Eat it or wear it” and dumped the shake on the top of my head!

Two things learned that day; 1. Moms do have a breaking point. 2. What would it kill me to take at least a little taste? I can proudly tell you now that my picky eating days are over and I eat so much more now (but malted milk still isn’t a favorite!) Thank goodness my kids are better eaters than I ever was!

4. Shifting Focus

As the busy mom of four, I often find myself saying and doing things that I regret. It’s a trait that many moms share, I know, internalizing more about the things that we’re doing wrong rather than all the things we do RIGHT! That’s something my mom has pushed me towards – a focus on my strengths instead of my weaknesses. It’s not about perfect, or even just being “good enough”. It’s being the best mom for my kids, being an advocate, a leader and a teacher. About being a good example through my words and actions. That means sometimes the dishes get done. And sometimes they don’t. But I try not to beat myself up about it either.

5. The Job’s a Game

Oh, how many weekends I spent cleaning my messy room! I’m an organized spirit at heart but sometimes my creative side gets the best of me and clutter ensues. Mom taught me to tidy up before I tackle a project and to put things away as I use them to minimize the mess. When we did family chores around the house, Mom always played loud Sousa marching music! This kept things lively and made me move and dance around the house. Even today, I play music as a motivator when housekeeping with my kids. My mom can’t even believe how tidy my house is now when she comes to visit.

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6. Share Your Stories

My mom’s childhood was a mix of hardship and joy. Music and singing got her through many of the difficult times. My mom is also an ultimate storyteller. I’m certain that a vivid imagination helped her stay strong when things were rough. The tales and life-lessons of her own childhood were my nightly bedtime stories. I’m blessed to have this library of memories brought to life in her re-telling. Mom had a way of taking something that was challenging for me at the time and telling a story about it that helped me to work it out. I’m sure that’s why I became a writer myself. Mom passed her love of stories to me and now I’m thankful to be able to share them with you.

This Mother’s Day, what stories do you have to share with your children? I urge you to tell your childhood stories with your kids and see what life-lessons you can teach them from what you’ve learned over the years.

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This post is sponsored by Baskin-Robbins in conjunction with Blog Meets Brand and I have been compensated for my participation. All opinions are my own.

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Growing up, Mother’s Day involved a handmade card for mom, church services, lunch afterwards with my extended family and a Baskin-Robbins ice cream cake at home for dessert! I have distinct memories of my dad taking me with him to the local Baskin-Robbins when I was about 8 years old to choose the ice cream cake for my mom. I remember that it was rectangular shaped and covered with icing flowers. And it had a mint chocolate chip ice cream layer because that was my favorite (I recall him angling for pralines and cream himself!) I’m sure my mom would have been happy with whatever flavor we chose because they are all good!

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Mother’s Day Baskin-Robbins Ice Cream Cake

Baskin-Robbins ice cream cakes elevate dessert to a special level. They’ve been making ice cream since 1945 and have created over 1,300 flavors! Right now Baskin-Robbins is celebrating moms with a lineup of colorful Rosette ice cream cakes that can personalized just for mom. The pink Rosette Cake features a trendy ombre design and has a special message on a white chocolate plaque. For our Mother’s Day gathering, I chose the Elegant Rosette Cake with a cascading bouquet of flowers and personal message. I love the bright colors!

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Both of Baskin-Robbins’ Mother’s Day ice cream cakes can be customized to feature mom’s favorite ice cream and cake flavor combination. They can be pre-ordered in-store or through Baskin-Robbins’ online cake ordering site.

For this design I had my choice of either chocolate or vanilla cake and 16 different ice cream flavors. For our Mother’s Day cake, I chose chocolate cake and OREO® Cookies ‘n Cream, always a favorite! Baskin-Robbins’ has an extensive flavor library, including the May Flavor of the Month, Mom’s Makin’ Cookies™. Mom’s Makin’ Cookies features brown sugar flavored ice cream with chocolate chip cookie pieces, chocolate flavored chips, and a cookie dough batter flavored ribbon…doesn’t that sound decadent?!

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Order Ice Cream Cakes Online

Baskin-Robbins online cake ordering couldn’t be easier! Click the Baskin-Robbins link to browse through the gallery of ice cream cakes. From here you can create your own customizable cake by choosing the size, favorite ice cream and cake flavor combination. There are up to 16 Baskin-Robbins ice cream flavors to choose from (including Mint Chocolate Chip, Jamoca® Almond Fudge or Very Berry Strawberry) and one of two cake varieties, chocolate or vanilla.

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There are also options to add on additional items, including candles, to make your celebration even more special. Online cake orders are available for pick-up on the date you select, with cakes available as soon as 24 hours after the order is placed.

Or Order in Store!

We have a brand new Baskin-Robbins about 2 miles from our house so my little one and I stopped in to place our cake order. There was a book of cake designs and the cake decorator took down my order details. Quick and easy… and since we were there, we just had to get a cone too!

How will you celebrate Mom this Mother’s Day? Consider ordering your Baskin-Robbins Ice Cream Cake today…you know she’ll love it!



Budget-Friendly Mother’s Day Gifts that She’ll Love

Skip the flowers and chocolates this year and pick up Mom a Mother’s Day gift that she’ll absolutely swoon over. You know when you’ve found just the right thing when she tells everyone she sees about it! No need to spend a ton, these are 11 fantastic treats that cost less than $60 each (so you can buy one for yourself too!)

Pampering, in the comfort of her own home

Amope Foot File

Amope Foot File (Amazon affiliate link)

Amopé Pedi Perfect Electronic Pedicure Foot File

Shhh…this is what I bought for my mom and my mother-in-law. In fact, I also bought one for my husband in anticipation of Father’s Day! A good friend has this and says it’s the best, that it completely eliminates any rough spots on her feet. I’m thinking I should have bought one for myself too!

Toss in some lovely Jamberry wraps and she can give herself a pampering from the tips of her nails to the bottoms of her feet!

A Weekend Retreat

Ricardo Beverly Hills

This is one bag that stands out from the rest and you can be sure Mom won’t lose sight of it in this catchy design. I received a Roxbury 2.0 Carry-on Hardside for my recent Walt Disney World trip and can attest to the high quality of Ricardo Beverly Hills.

As a special Mother’s Day offer, Traveling Mom has partnered with Ricardo to give readers a Traveling Mom exclusive deal: 65% off the retail price of any Ricardo suitcase. Visit the Ricardo website to start shopping. Add the coupon code TMOM65Off at checkout. If your order totals more than $99, you’ll also receive free shipping. (The offer is good only until May 31, 2015)

The Perfect Fit

Pandora Cinderella bracelet (it’s not gold, it’s really silver but the Instagram app seems to have changed the color!)

I just recently received my first Pandora bracelet and charm. It’s so stunningly beautiful, I think I’m addicted. I’ve been stalking the Disney Store link looking for my next addition.

Cinderella Tiara Charm

Cinderella Tiara Pandora Charm (Affiliate link)

Relaxation and Wellness

Lavender is lovely. Peppermint, refreshing. Serenity calms. Using doTerra essential oils is one of my favorite ways to wind-down at night. A drop or two on my feet and massaged in before bed and I am oh-so relaxed. Moms can use all the relaxing they can get!

A Book of Memories


Lunch in Morocco with Mom

I just returned from an epic trip to Walt Disney World with my mom. It was a whirlwind and I didn’t take nearly enough pictures, but we did capture some wonderful moments together. Consider combining your special mom moments together into a Shutterfly book. I have a dozen of these books and love going back through them to relive the memories.

If you’re a mom, what do you most want to receive for Mother’s Day? Breakfast in bed? Peace and Quiet? Share in the comments!

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