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Stuck in a Marriage Dating Rut? Date Night Challenge-Things We Have Never Done

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“THINGS WE HAVE NEVER DONE” DATE

A Mother’s Random Thoughts (Patty) and Saving Up for Disney (Julie) welcome you back for round another fabulous Date Night Challenge. This Third Date Night Challenge is easy, and you can make it as simple or extravagant as time and your budget allows. Remember, it is not necessary to actually leave the house. You can stay home and “date” your spouse.

While I (Julie) enjoy trying new things, my husband prefers the “tried and true”. He’d rather do something he knows we’ve liked in the past so we’re not at risk of wasting money on something we won’t enjoy. We recently went out to a popular chain restaurant that we’d never been to before. We had a gift card but still spent about $20. Unfortunately it wasn’t the best “date night” location for us. It was loud, there were televisions everywhere you looked and we weren’t crazy about the food. It was an experience but life and learn, I guess…we won’t be doing that one again! Oh well, at least we were able to get out together.

However there are lots of different date night ideas that don’t require any costs and still allow you to stretch out and explore!

Here are the rules:

  • You need to do something you have never done before – eat at a new restaurant, eat a new cuisine, shop at a new store, go roller skating, ice skating, go dancing, take a cooking class together, etc.
  • This is designed to do things you have never done before. You know how you always say, “someday we should eat at,” or “let’s stop at that store.” This date allows you to do those things. 
  • Make sure to talk with your spouse about your plans beforehand. There is nothing worse than getting somewhere and finding out that your worst fear is now being realized. Even though my husband and I dating for 4 years, after we were married a couple years, I found out that he hated the sight of blood.

Ideas include: 

  • Shopping at a new store – maybe visit a thrift store or a high end department store
  • Dinner at a new restaurant (or an old one that you have never visited)
  • Visit an museum (art, history, science)
  • Take a painting or ceramic class
  • Visit a thrift store or visit a high end department store 
  • Re-enact a scene from your favorite movie
  • Get a pizza with toppings that you have never tried
  • If you want adventure try zip lining or rock climbing (there are indoor places popping up all over), or sky diving
  • Volunteer at a local nursing home or soup kitchen
  • Hot Air Balloon ride
  • Rent a sports car

With three kids (and another due next month) we don’t often have the opportunity to get out without the kids. I love these ideas on stay-at-home date ideas. While our kids were occupied this weekend, my husband and I took some time to bake a cake together. It went together quickly with two people prepping ingredients and cleaning up and it was great to share a treat together that night after the kids had gone to bed.

Maybe you need to stay home for your date ideas:

  • Prepare a dinner using ingredients that you have never tried or culture that you have never eaten
  • Take a DVD out of the library on how to Tango, Swing Dance, etc.
  • Using You Tube find videos on how to, and do it together. Ideas: Dance, cook, bake bread, learn a new language

HELP US TO SPREAD THE LOVE:  

Follow along with us on our social media sites to join in on the fun, and to share with us! We will be using #DateNightChallenge across our social media channels and hope you will too.

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  • You have 2 weeks to complete this Challenge. Make sure to link below by 12:05 AM EST, February 22, 2016. You can link up with a photo only posted on Facebook or Instagram!
  • By linking, you give The Date Night Challenge Hosts permission to use your name and photo, and links to your social media accounts.
  • We will pin, tweet, share, and promote our Date Night Challenge. We encourage you to visit other participants in this challenge, comment and share the love with them!

HERE’S TO A GREAT DATE!

Julie & Patty

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Stuck in a Marriage Dating Rut? Date Night Challenge-The Trip Around the World

THE TRIP AROUND THE WORLD

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A Mother’s Random Thoughts (Patty) and Saving Up for Disney (Julie) welcome you back for round two of our Date Night Challenges. The Second Date Night Challenge is fun and creative. You can make it as simple or extravagant as time and your budget allows. Remember, it is not necessary to actually leave the house. You can stay home and “date” your spouse. 


Here are the rules:

  • Ask your spouse, without telling him/her why, to name three to five places that he/she would like to visit. These could be locations, states, countries, or even outer space. 
  • Begin planning your date around these locations. Examples: Italy, China, and Australia
Ideas include: 

An appetizer at an Australian restaurant (Outback)
Dinner at a Chinese restaurant
Dessert at an Italian restaurant 

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Visit an art gallery that has an exhibit from one of the locations
Many cities have festivals in honor of different cultures
Watch a movie located in your destination

Maybe you need to stay home for your date:


Select music from China to play during a Chinese dinner
Choose a movie with characters from Australia such as Crocodile Dundee 
Watch a travel show on the location (the library is an excellent resource for travel documentaries)
Dessert of Tiramisu or Biscotti and Espresso.


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Here are some ideas for countries or places:
  • Disney World/Theme Park: Visit an indoor amusement park, Play a game at Chuck E Cheese, find somewhere that sells Mickey Ice Cream Bars or Pineapple Dole Whip, Make Mickey Mouse shaped chocolate chip cookies and make cookie ice cream sandwiches.
  • France: Visit an art Exhibit, make crepes, plan an picnic (indoor picnics can be fun) with cheese, bread and fruit.
  • Italy: Watch Three Coins in a Fountain, and find a fountain to throw some coins in, play bocce, listen to Dean Martin sing An Evening in Roma, Volare, That’s Amore. Plan an Italian meal of Caesar salad, spaghetti or lasagna, gelato, espresso. Eat your spaghetti like Lady and the Tramp!

  • Switzerland: Climb the tallest peak in your town, or eat Lindt chocolates (from Switzerland). Practice yodeling together.
  • Germany: Watch Snow White or Tangled, make a fondue (or visit the Melting Pot), learn to Polka or listen to Bavarian folk music, eat Black Forest Cheesecake.
  • Ireland/England: Eat fish and chips at a pub, watch or play a soccer game, have afternoon tea and scones, dance an Irish jig, finish the night with Irish coffee.
  • Carribean: Watch Pirates of the Carribean, play Escape by Rupert Holmes.
HELP US TO SPREAD THE LOVE:  
Follow along with us on our social media sites to join in on the fun, and to share with us! We will be using #DateNightChallenge across our social media channels and hope you will too.

TWITTER       (Julie and Patty)

INSTAGRAM (Julie and Patty)

FACEBOOK   (Julie and Patty)

PINTEREST    (Julie and Patty)

  • You have 2 weeks to complete this Challenge. Make sure to link below by 12:05 AM EST, February 8, 2016. 
  • By linking, you give The Date Night Challenge Hosts permission to use your name and photo, and links to your social media accounts.
  • We will pin, tweet, share, and promote our Date Night Challenge. We encourage you to visit other participants in this challenge, comment and share the love with them!

HERE’S TO A GREAT DATE!

Love & Hugs – Patty & Julie

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Stuck in a Marriage Dating Rut? Join Our Date Night Challenge-#1

Stuck in a Marriage Dating Rut? Join Our Date Night Challenges!

When my husband and I were first dating we went out places, dined in restaurants and went to the movies. Now that we’re married, have three kids (with another on the way) and are on a limited budget, we very rarely go out. The last time we attempted a date night we got dressed up, excited for going out but without a plan. We drove around town for an hour, passing each of the local restaurants without any idea what we wanted to do or eat. We ended up back at home to cook our own dinner and watch Netflix, same as every other night! How many times has this happened to you? You tried to have a fun evening with your honey, but resorted to the same ol’ thing because you didn’t have a solid plan?

Well I always believe that two (or more) heads are better than one for planning anything, and so my Co-Host and I are inviting our friends, readers, and closest internet pals to come participate in an exciting Date Night Challenge Series.

Date Night Challenge Hosts

Before we give you the nitty gritty details about The Date Night Challenges you will face, let us introduce ourselves:

Patty from A Mother’s Random Thoughts – I have been married for 31 years to Jeff. We married when I was 5 which would make me 36 years old!!! (HaHa) We met in high school; I was a freshman, and he was a junior. We were friends for the next two years, and we started dating when he graduated from high school. We “went steady” for four years before we married. We have five children ranging in age from 28 to 11, and we have three granddaughters. We love Disney, traveling, and spending time together.

Julie from Saving Up For Disney Daniel & I have been married for 5 years. I was living with my parents & son after my divorce, and he lived next door with his mom. He would bring his daughter over to play with my son on the weekends and that’s how we met. Yes, I really did marry the boy next door! Our eldest kids are only 3 months apart and we’ve added to the family with a 4-year old boy and soon to have a baby daughter. With so many kids and a tight budget, our “date nights” are usually spent at home with Netflix and a bowl of ice cream!

Join Us!

Our New Dating Series begins today, Monday, January 11, 2016. Every two weeks, A Mother’s Random Thoughts and Saving Up for Disney will co-host a dating challenge for couples. We will give you a scenario that you will have 2 weeks to complete. The scenarios will be simple and easy for you to incorporate into your life considering your town, lifestyle and budget. We want to make this as uncomplicated as possible for you, but also fun and challenging. We want you to have an experience on your night out that is memorable and unique to you as a couple.

After your date, you will be given the options of sharing with us through a blog post, on Instagram, or on Facebook. At the end of the 2 weeks, Patty and I (Julie) will select a winner, who will help us select a future Date Night Challenge!  Every two weeks we will be posting another installment of Date Night Challenge. The purpose of these posts is to spark your imagination. I know how difficult it can be to come up with an exciting ideas, and far too often we do the same exact thing on outings. Not only did it get monotonous, but we didn’t even look forward to it. We failed to do the things necessary to make it a special time together. It was like two friends going out for dinner.

Time to Break Out of the Rut

Here is what our (Julie & Daniel) typical date looked like: Our only real “date nights” are for special occasions, like a company party or a church meeting. We haven’t been on an actual planned date night just for FUN in years. We haven’t seen a movie in a theater together since our youngest was born, four years ago. The last sit-down restaurant we went to without kids was 8 months ago. I’d love to be able to go out and connect with my husband outside of our house without having to monitor children conversations or cut someone’s food!

Our last  date...8 months ago!

Our last date…8 months ago!

The Challenge

Because we know that boring dates are not good for a relationship, and we know that coming up with creative things to do takes time. We have decided to offer you inspiration for your date nights. Dating your spouse is important. So every two weeks we will give you an opportunity to do something different than you usually do. Help inspire your friends for a more exciting DATE NIGHT!

After careful consideration, reading and planning, we have come up with the following challenge:

THE SCENARIO: THE MUSIC DATE
  • You and your spouse pick five songs that have some meaning to you and your relationship. 
  • Pick a location that is conducive to playing music (use earbuds if necessary) and talking (park, outside cafe, bookstore, music store, coffee shop, the backyard after the kids have gone to bed, the closet before the kids wake up, etc.)
  • Make sure to talk about the songs – what you remember about them, when you first heard the song, how it made you feel, and the meaning it has in your relationship.
  • Take turns with the songs. Don’t be surprised if there are some of the same songs on both your play lists.
  • You have two weeks to plan, execute, and post – either as a blog post, Instagram or Facebook.
  • We look forward to seeing/hearing your stories!
HELP US TO SPREAD THE LOVE:  
Follow along with us on our social media sites to join in on the fun, and to share with us! We will be using #DateNightChallenge across our social media channels and hope you will too.
TWITTER       (Julie and Patty)
INSTAGRAM (Julie and Patty)
FACEBOOK   (Julie and Patty)
PINTEREST   (Julie and Patty)

  • You have 2 weeks to complete this Challenge. Make sure to link below by 12:01 AM EST, January 25, 2016. 
  • By linking, you give The Date Night Challenge Hosts to use your name and photo, and links to your social media accounts.
  • We will pin, tweet, share, and promote our Date Night Challenge. We encourage you to visit other participants in this challenge, comment and share the love with them!
HERE’S TO A GREAT DATE!

Love & Hugs – Patty & Julie